HOW TO OVERCOME SETBACKS
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Are you an achiever or an overachiever? I get it… I love writing down a goal + chasing after it to make it happen.
Some of those goals are fairly easy to achieve, like my goal of reading 10 pages a day. It’s not a huge goal, but I love being able to look at my reading log and seeing the pages I’ve read so far, knowing that I’m on my way to my reading goal.
However, some goals are a lot harder, and much more out of your control. As a business owner, working toward 6-figures or $5K months isn’t exactly in our control. I can control how many pages I read every day, but I can’t control who decides to join my program or how much money I make.
And those goals that are out of our control can feel, well, a bit more stressful, right? And many times we want to do everything we can to try and control them… even to the point where we are desperate to achieve that goal.
And desperate isn’t a good look on anyone.
Not having control over something is hard, and you might feel like you are failing, or that certain goals aren’t worth going after because it is taking you longer than the timeline you set for yourself (again, something you have ZERO control over).
But, here’s what I want you to know about your goals…
SETBACKS ARE INEVITABLE.
No matter what you are doing in your life or what goal you are out to achieve, you are going to face setbacks. Not just one. Not just once in a blue moon. OFTEN.
But, that doesn’t mean that setback is a reason to quit. Sometimes those setbacks are a SET UP for something even better than you need to learn or do.
So, how do we overcome those setbacks that feel next to impossible to overcome?
ONE || Find a positive affirmation and repeat it OFTEN.
Here’s a staggering statistic… we have 12,000 to 50,000 thoughts every single day. But, here’s what’s really scary about that: 80% of those thoughts are negative.
If you think about what you say to yourself on a daily basis, would you say those things to your best friend? Your mom? Your daughter or son?
Chances are, the words you speak to yourself you probably wouldn’t say to the person you despise most on the planet.
So, how do we change that behavior? How do we change those thoughts from 80% negative to maybe a little bit more on the positive side?
Positive affirmations.
What’s the one thing that gets you caught up frequently? For me, it’s self-doubt. When something hard comes up, I feel like it’s the end of the world. Like I don’t have the tools or experience or whatever is necessary to get past that roadblock. But, when I think back to the last time I was faced with something hard and felt like it was the end of the world (I’m not dramatic AT ALL…), I remind myself that I’m still here. I’m still standing. Everything works out.
My mantra is, “I’ve always figured it out, and I always will.” When I was facing some of the deepest depression in my life, somehow, some way, I was able to get out of it. I’m still here. I figured it out. Maybe it took me longer than I would have liked (and some help from some anti-depressants didn’t hurt), but I figured it out. And no matter what is thrown at me in the future, I will ALWAYS figure it out. It might be hard + it might suck, but I’ll ALWAYS figure it out.
Find a positive affirmation that you BELIEVE and can repeat to yourself when your faced with a setback that seems overwhelming.
TWO || Find a support system.
And by system, I mean multiple people who can help you in all sorts of different situations.
When I need an outsiders opinion on my business, my husband is my go-to person. When I’m stressing out about my clients, my business bestie helps talk me off a ledge. When I need someone to give me a kick in the rear to do the things I know I’m meant to do (or need to do for that matter), it’s a friend who understands my business but my business doesn’t affect him.
Having people in place you can talk to who are going to tell you what you need to hear (even if you don’t necessarily want to hear it) can help you when you need it the most. These people are the ones who love you regardless of whatever decision you make and will keep you accountable for your actions.
Tell those people who they are to you and WHY they matter. And if you don’t have those people yet, ASK SOMEONE. I bet you’ll be surprised just how much someone would love to take on that role for you!
THREE || Unless it’s bad for your health, DON’T GIVE UP.
I honestly hate saying this because I think it sounds like you have to keep on going no matter what, but unless you are in a toxic relationship, or are facing serious health consequences (illness, injury, mental health, etc.), keep on going.
I’m a big believer in signs and following the path God is leading me on. And when I trust Him, guess where He leads me? To where I’m supposed to go. To keep moving forward, even when it’s hard. Even when I want to quit. Keep looking to God and He will show you where to go and what to do.
Yes, it will be hard.
Yes, it might take you longer than you’d like.
But, be resilient, persevere, and I know you’ll find yourself somewhere you have only dreamed about.
Looking to achieve some big goals over the next month, 6 months, year? I truly believe it’s possible for you! Here are some additional resources that can help you change your thoughts and help you create achievable goals:
How to achieve your goals this year
